"Plenty Ought to be Enough."
It's a perfect mantra for us. My husband always says "we suffer from abundance," and it's true. Even when we were $100,000 + in debt - due to a surprise birth scenario - we still managed to have more than we'd ever need.
The other day, however, I noticed that mantra falling short.
We were watching our kids play - all three of them - the twins together and Ayara off on her own. Ut oh. I started to think about how nice it would be for her to have a playmate. A short convo with Bob later and we were both saying "let's think about it."
That was two days ago and you bet I've thought about it since then.
When we got together Bob asked "how many kids would you like to have?" and my response was "eight!" I know it took him by surprise but he was on board in no time. The truth is that even though we're both feeling "the itch" to grow our family, now is not a perfect time. Not only is our home just right and car seating maxxed out, but my body still hasn't healed from the traumatic back-to-back pregnancies (twins and - a short 14 months later - a 12-pound-preemie).
Playing devil's advocate (or maybe just being the intellectual that he is) Bob reminded me that if you wait for the timing to be perfect for having a baby, you might wait your life away. He makes a good point. Having a baby brings a lot of unexpected: financially, emotionally, relationshipally - that's a lot of "allys".
For now all that we know is that when it comes to growing a family, ours is not replete. We're both on the same page - or at least reading the same chapter - and will see what the future holds.
I'd love to hear your future plans. Is your family complete?